Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for women in rural areas. Ms.Zhou’s main office is in Tanshan, Hebei province.
A visitor called Banana asked for a telephone conversation via QQ. I said yes, but she said the telephone call must be made after 11:00pm. I was thinking the late call would affect my sleep. I asked her to leave me the question onQQ and I would get back to her.
Banana left me messages several times on my QQ. I found her questions were not clear. Finally, I gave her my number and said she could call. I did not hear anything from her for several days, so I started to forget about it. She sometimes messaged me but always said she was too busy for a full call. Whenever she had time, it was too late to make a phone call.
One night, I texted her and said no matter how late it was, I would be waiting for her call. At 10:40 PM, my mobile phone rang. The number showed Nanping City of Fujian Province. I was surprised to hear the voice on the other side of the phone was that of a man.
His family name is Fu and he is 40. He works in a factory due to heavy family burdens. He likes to read books on psychology. He read one of my cases in a magazine. He thought it was a miracle that I performed hypnosis as part of the treatment. He recently borrowed 600 RMB from his father and found a psychological consultancy organization. A psychologist received him but he did not know what kind of treatment the doctor used. He paid about 1000 RMB, but his problems were not solved. When he wanted to make an appointment with the psychologist again, they lost connection. At that time, he found my QQ number in the magazine and became curious about hypnosis.
His problem is that he is afraid to be alone. He was also scared of those around him but felt he had nowhere to hide.
I talked with him about two things. I told him that your psychological state is related to your personality, environment and life experiences. All these things must be considered. Treatment methods vary according to the specific psychological problem, one method cannot fit all psychological problems. Hypnosis is not a treatment that suits all people. Secondly, I told Fu that his problems showed a shortage of confidence. I told him only he can cure himself. He should be more confident, fearing nothing. I also told him that everyone needs to be responsible for their own feelings. If he can go a step forward, everything will be fine. He did not have to pay for the treatment I gave him.
During our talking, Fu kept giving positive responses like “oh, oh, I see…”.
Then I told him there are a lot of warm-hearted peoplein the world.I told him if he treats the people around him kindly, he would be rewarded with the same treatment. He agreed with me.
Time went fast. We had a 130-minute call. He asked me to give him the number of the account and he would pay me. I said it wasn't necessary and he should just do as I told him. He said, “you are like an elder sister. I did not expect you to be so kind.”
One week later, Fu texted me and said he was not afraid of those around him as much anymore
I thought, my counseling worked well on him.
God helps those who help themselves. He is his best doctor.
Original article written by Yonghong Zhou, translated by Maggie Li, edited by Yanyan Zhang
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